How To Make Your Mother-in-law Love You Forever
As women, our relationship with our mums is quite distinct from any other relationship we'll ever have,' she says. 'Even if we fight, we can't avoid being close: it is our first relationship and we're so similar, yet different.
Mother figures
'Women who have the most problems with their mother-in-laws tend to be the same women who don't get on with their own mothers. They may resent mother figures and how they behave. If you want to get on better with your mother-in-law, it might help to first work on what's causing the problems between yourself and your own mum.'
Jealousy puts up barriers in these relationships. 'Daughters-in-law often envy the relationship between mother and son and want to replace that relationship with themselves. Meanwhile, mother-in-law wants her son looked after in the way only she can, which is of course impossible, unless the daughter in law is her clone.'
These differences can soon cause a bitter stalemate. As Relater's Denise Knowles explains: 'The main problem with the mother and daughter-in-law relationship is the feeling of inferiority it causes. If Mum won't give up mothering her son even though he's married, daughter-in-law is made to feel she's the second, not the first, woman in his life.
'Learning to get on better with your mother-in-law is about learning how to feel less of a victim, and deflecting her difficult behaviour.'
A blessing in disguise
Denise says it's worth reminding yourself that your mother-in-law can be a blessing, and it really is worth putting in some work to improve your relationship. 'Mothers-in-law can be a real source of support. Daughters-in-law need to recognize that and not automatically assume things will be difficult, which often may alienate the mother in law unnecessarily.
'If you start off with a bad relationship, and let her get away with making you feel inadequate, the less likely things are to change. The more confident you are about your position in her son's life, the easier you'll get on.
'If you let things lie, and never tackle her, it will cause problems not just between you and her, but also between you and her son.'
5 ways to stop in-law wars:
1. Keep talking. Don't clam up and simmer in silence when she says something that upsets you. It's possible to let her know what you don't like, and why, without causing major offence.
For example: 'I realize you're only trying to help, but it makes me feel immature when you give me advice I haven't asked for. There are lots of things I'd really value your advice on, but I'd find it much more helpful if I could ask you first.'
2. Appreciate her good points. Come on, even dragons have their pleasant side! Instead of fuming when she's cleaned your kitchen from top to bottom, why not thank her for being so helpful and feel pleased that you didn't have to do it for once? It's amazing how much gentler she'll be if she sees, every so often, that you do value her.
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3. Ask her advice. She never approves of your cooking? Turn the situation around by asking her: 'I'd like to cook Fred a special meal. Is there anything you can think of that he'd really enjoy?' That way she'll still feel involved, by being given the chance to contribute, but you haven't let her take over.
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4. Visit her. If she's in the habit of turning up at your house unannounced, it's a sign she probably feels excluded from your life, which can make her want to interfere more. It's often easily solved by calling on her instead. Pop in for a coffee every so often, which shows her you're thinking of her but takes away her need to drop in on you unexpectedly.
5. Keep it light. So what if she runs her finger through the quarter-inch of dust gathering on the windowsill? By turning it into a joke: ('Hey - I keep that there to write 'I love you' to Fred!') you're telling her that you don't have the same priorities as she does...And you're happy with that. You're making an important point in a fun way, without causing offence.
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100 Most Romantic Love Quotes To Share With Your Special Someone
Need the perfect words for the perfect person? These love quotes can help if you're feeling tongue-tied.
In the words of Johnny Cash: Love is a burning thing. New love, old love, love that fizzled and then sparked again—it’s all magnificent and wondrous. Each love story is packed with emotions and experiences that shape those involved. While it may seem impossible to sum up your relationship in a few words, sometimes a moving and meaningful love quote can capture the essence of a relationship (especially around Valentine’s Day).
That’s what this list is for: To give you the best relationship quotes, special love messages and powerful words about finding that special someone. Some of these quotes are uplifting, others are quite funny or deeply romantic. Each relationship is different, so read on and see which one perfectly sums up your union. You can use them as sweet Instagram captions for your couples photos, or even as beautiful Valentine’s Day messages. After browsing these quotes, read these wonderful love poems for more romantic words.
“I love you” quotes1. “I love you because the entire universe conspired to help me find you.” —Paul Coelho, The Alchemist
2. “I love you as certain dark things are to be loved, in secret, between the shadow and the soul.” —Pablo Neruda
3. “I love you to the moon and back.” —Sam McCartney, Guess How Much I Love You
4. “Say ‘I love you’ out loud and often.” —Mary Davis, Every Day Spirit: A Daybook of Wisdom, Joy and Peace
5. “For you see, each day I love you more, today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.” —Rosemond Gérard
6. “Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says: ‘I need you because I love you.'” —Erich Fromm
7. “I love you—I am at rest with you—I have come home.” —Dorothy L. Sayers
8. “I love you more than there are stars in the sky and fish in the sea.” —Nicholas Sparks
9. “Do I love you? My God, if your love were a grain of sand, mine would be a universe of beaches.” —William Goldman, The Princess Bride
10. “I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.” —Elizabeth Barrett Browning
11. “He is fairer than the morning star, and whiter than the moon. For his body I would give my soul, and for his love I would surrender heaven.” —Oscar Wilde
12. “The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space.” —Marilyn Monroe
13. “Falling for him would be like cliff diving. It would be either the most exhilarating thing that ever happened to me or the stupidest mistake I’d ever make.” —Colleen Houck, Tiger’s Curse
14. “As he read, I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.” —John Green, The Fault in Our Stars
15. “He’s more myself than I am. Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” —Emily Brontë, Wuthering Heights
16. “The best smell in the world is that man that you love.” —Jennifer Aniston
17. “So dear I love him, that with him, all deaths I could endure, without him, live no life.” —John Milton
18. “I love that you are my person and I am yours, that whatever door we come to, we will open it together.” —A.R. Asher
19. “Come live in my heart, and pay no rent.” —Samuel Lover
20. “A purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved.” —Kurt Vonnegut
21. “The simple lack of her is more to me than others’ presence.” —George Thomas
22. “I loved her against reason, against promise, against peace, against hope, against happiness, against all discouragement that could be.” —Charles Dickens, Great Expectations
23. “I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self-respect. And it’s these things I’d believe in, even if the whole world indulged in wild suspicions that she wasn’t all she should be. I love her and it is the beginning of everything.” —F. Scott Fitzgerald
24. “I felt her absence. It was like waking up one day with no teeth in your mouth. You wouldn’t need to run to the mirror to know they were gone.” —James Dashner, The Scorch Trials
25. “Till my last day, I’ll be loving you.” —Unknown
26. “He felt now that he was not simply close to her, but that he did not know where he ended and she began.” ―Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina
27. “My heart beats faster as you take my hand, my love grows stronger as you touch my soul.” —A.C. Van Cherub
28. “We lie in each other’s arms eyes shut and fingers open and all the colors of the world pass through our bodies like strings of fire.” —Marge Piercy
29. “You and I, it’s as though we have been taught to kiss in heaven and sent down to Earth together, to see if we know what we were taught.” —Boris Pasternak, Doctor Zhivago
30. “I can listen no longer in silence. I must speak to you by such means as are within my reach. You pierce my soul. I am half agony, half hope … I have loved none but you.” —Jane Austen, Persuasion
31. “I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope and every dream I’ve ever had.” —Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
32. “Because of you, I can feel myself slowly, but surely, becoming the me I have always dreamed of being.” —Tyler Knott Gregson
33. “Ancient lovers believed a kiss would literally unite their souls, because the spirit was said to be carried in one’s breath.” —Eve Glickman
34. “In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine.” —Maya Angelou
35. “There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.” ―Friedrich Nietzsche
36. “It isn’t possible to love and part. You will wish that it was. You can transmute love, ignore it, muddle it, but you can never pull it out of you. I know by experience that the poets are right: love is eternal.” —E.M. Forster, A Room with a View
37. “Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” —Antoine de Saint-Expiry
38. “Did my heart love till now? Forswear it, sight! / For I ne’er saw true beauty till this night.” —William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet
39. “Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get—only with what you are expecting to give—which is everything.” —Katharine Hepburn
40. “If one day the moon calls you by your name don’t be surprised, because every night I tell her about you.” —Shahrazad al-Khalil
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41. “The power of a glance has been so much abused in love stories, that it has come to be disbelieved in. Few people dare now to say that two beings have fallen in love because they have looked at each other. Yet it is in this way that love begins, and in this way only.” —Victor Hugo, Les Misérables
42. “Love doesn’t make the world go ’round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” —Franklin P. Jones
43. “I am in you and you in me, mutual in divine love.” —William Blake
44. “It’s like in that moment the whole universe existed just to bring us together.” —Serendipity
45. “Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep burning and unquenchable.” —Bruce Lee
46. “Your words are my food, your breath my wine. You are everything to me.” —Sarah Bernhardt
47. “Chemistry is you touching my arm and setting fire to my mind.” —Nayika Waleed
48. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” —Lao Tzu
49. “If I loved you less, I might be able to talk about it more.” ―Jane Austen, Emma
50. “Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.” —Zelda Fitzgerald
51. “Love is so short, forgetting is so long.” —Pablo Neruda
52. “If you remember me, then I don’t care if everyone else forgets.” —Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore
53. “Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.” —Robert Frost
54. “If I know what love is, it is because of you.” —Herman Hesse
55. “I swear I couldn’t love you more than I do right now, and yet I know I will tomorrow.” —Leo Christopher
56. “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” —Aristotle
57. “Love is the whole thing. We are only pieces.” —Rumi
58. “All love is sweet—given or returned.” —Percy Bysshe Shelley
59. “Unable are the loved to die, for love is immortality.” —Emily Dickinson
60. “Grow old along with me; the best is yet to be.” —Robert Browning
61. “There is no remedy for love but to love more.” —Henry David Thoreau's
62. “Death cannot stop true love. All it can do is delay it for a while.” —William Goldman, The Princess Bride
63. “True love is like ghosts, which everyone talks about and few have seen.” —François de la Rochefoucauld
64. “True love has no expiration date.” —Unknown
65. “I saw that you were perfect, and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect and I loved you even more.” —Angelita Lim
66. “I can no longer think of anything but you. In spite of myself, my imagination carries me to you. I grasp you, I kiss you, I caress you, a thousand of the most amorous caresses take possession of me.” —Honoré de Balzac
67. “Sharing the same passionate love with another person gives a feeling of being alive! The experience of something real is unforgettable.” —Ellen J. Barrier
68. “There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.” —Sarah Dissent, The Truth About Forever
69. “True love stories never have endings.” —Richard Bach
70. “I cannot fix on the hour, or the spot, or the look or the words, which laid the foundation. It is too long ago. I was in the middle before I knew that I had begun.” —Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice
71. “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” —When Harry Met Sally…
72. “You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.” —Albert Einstein
73. “The greatest wonderful feeling is falling in love.” —Lailah Gift Akita
74. “You can’t help who you fall in love with.” —E.L. Montes, Cautious
75. “I love being married. It’s so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.” —Rita Rudner
76. “If you love them in the morning with their eyes full of crust, if you love them at night with their hair full of rollers, chances are, you’re in love.” —Miles Davis
77. “Never go to bed mad. Stay up and fight.” —Phyllis Diller
78. “By all means marry; If you get a good wife, you’ll be happy. If you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.” —Socrates
79. “The heart has its reasons, of which reason knows nothing.” —Blaise Pascal
80. “Love is being stupid together.” —Paul Valery
81. “It wasn’t love at first sight. It took a full five minutes.” —Lucille Ball
82. “Love is a two-way street constantly under construction.” —Carroll Bryant
83. “Love is something sent from heaven to worry the hell out of you.” —Dolly Parton
84. “If I love you, what business is it of yours?” —Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
85. “I like to say there’s certain things you can’t take back: One of them is ‘I love you,’ and one of them is bullets.” —Nathan Fill ion
86. “Save a boyfriend for a rainy day—and another, in case it doesn’t rain.” —Mae West
87. “I love you no matter what you do, but do you have to do so much of it?” —Jean Illsley Clarke
88. “Love is like an hourglass, with the heart filling up as the brain empties.” —Jules Renard
If you need more humor in your life, these funny quotes are sure to make you chuckle.
Cute love quotes89. “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” —Dr. Seuss
90. “If I had a flower for every time I thought of you … I could walk through my garden forever.” —Alfred Lord Tennyson
91. “I almost wish we were butterflies and lived but three summer days—three such days with you I could fill with more delight than fifty common years could ever contain.” —John Keats
92. “I would love to say that you make me weak in the knees, but to be quite upfront and completely truthful you make my body forget it has knees at all.” —Tyler Knott Gregson
93. “Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly and without law, and must be plucked where it is found, and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration.” —D.H. Lawrence
94. “If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.” —A.A. Milne
95. “You are whatever a moon has always meant and whatever a sun will always sing.” —E.E. Cummings, “I Carry Your Heart with Me”
96. “The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” —Audrey Hepburn
97. “When you look at me, when you think of me, I am in paradise.” —William Makepeace Thackeray
98. “To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.” —David Vincotto
99. “Love is like the wind—you can’t see it but you can feel it.” —Nicholas Sparks, A Walk to Remember
100. “We are most alive when we’re in love.” —
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